One flesh- ever think what that really means for a man and women?

One Flesh, it's bibilcal and it means... one flesh. The promise of God to join us who marry. It a spiritual distinction. I believe He does this to marriages outside of Christianity also in the hope that when you lose it, the one flesh phenomenon, you will look to regain it through him.. Marriage is so sarcrid to Him.

So what is that like- this one flesh?

I was looking that the stagering statics in regards to 70% of women are at that poverty level. I am convicted by these numbers and move to do some kind of spiritual repsonse. The bible says the poor will always be there. I believe that is true and it was meant for us to be convicted by. To be be moved by. To stir our love for His creation and connnect with our compassion. To move us to actions. Christian become complacent in the word and say, "Oh God will take care of it and those people are just the lost and they are just not following that word enough or believing in His promises enough." God is doing enough and so are the poor. I think it was mean for us to turn that finger around and point it in our directions... ooh... that's uncomfortable. God has many promises and I believe them all but there is something as women we are missing here as Christian. 70% of women are on poverty level. It's time to declare some kind of way we are being and not aligning with God's will here. So what is that? God never meant for us to settle.He meant for us to be more than conquors. We need to conquor this. We need to go to war on this. Lift up and encourage many of the women who are afraid and have have been bam booozaled into intimidation by the devil by the economic realities of the world for them..

To be aware that the success of your business shakes the darkness. That your Victory in your business, relationship, family is not about you. It's about backing off the darkness for you and your sisters in Christs family and those in your family and those that you love that are still lost.. It goes deeper than your business. It's handling the emotional darkness of separation/division in the family that leads to; depression, eating disorders, alcoholism, broking relationships, broken family, divorces. We don't think we have a right to a good marriage or life. We don't think we have a right for our husbands to be king in our homes- to be one flesh with our mates. Ok, so what is one flesh? If you don't know what that means- it means unison with your husband to walk in His perfect love. Your heart beats with your husband and his with yours. It's a blessing of one ness from the Lord Christ. It's the thing that we get a taste of when we first enter into relationships and then we believe the lies and it fades. It means we demand more that lust in the bedroom that we hold out for God to make the union pure and one flesh- because only He can do that. It means we pray for the dream to be restore or if it was never in place to have Him place His holy blessing on this unison and make it holy.

To stop selling out and being good Christians on Sunday but then we go home and be a whore for our husbands wishes because we don't think we have the right to a heavenly love from the Garden that God meant us to have here on earth. To be restored in the union that He had in mind for us in the original garden. I hear the churh infected with worldly points of view. I recently heard a Christian marriage councelor on one of the major TV evangelical stations get up and say, "Well men like sex more then women and women like intimacy more than than men." Bull pucky. God gave all His children hearts that are capable of great love, great compassion. Hold out for this! This is the truth.

This is has been part of my walk. It's all about love and trusting Him to bless us with that oneness.. Yes, that passionate giving love that we all want, crave, would die for but it is so much simplier than we ever imagine, really.

I have many counselors. One is a 20 year evangelist who I told the problem I had in the bedroom with my husband. That our relationship was one of just lust. I had spent my marriage trying to find the oneness I had felt in my first marriage and couldn't not recapture that with my new husband.

There answer was: Well if your husband thinks that sex is only a phyical act; than that is what you have to submit to.

..... I ... don't.... think...... so

I held out. I didn't have sex with my unbeliever husband. I am of the Lord Christ and He did not mean for the devil to come slobber all over me in lustful ways. He was meant to love and worship me as the church. My husband didn't even know the different between real love and lust. I held out and my husband is unrecognisable. My husband is not an ardent believer and even He had to notice the syncinicity of our hearts and minds. He was previously what the world would of called a verbal abuser. The church just said- just submit to this speaking . Once again... I ... don't .... think so......I didn't and I found other women who God has walked through this path and we need to shout this Victory for other women from the roof tops. I got over the hurt and everything I had done to be the subserviant wife that didn't work. I went months, years with out complaining about anything- oh just pray more was the response I kept getting from my counselors- pray more. I did pray and God put a few books in my hand about how to deal with Verbal Abuse from experts, I established new patterns of every time my husband would do a verbal slander. I would stop the presses. I would say.... that is verbal abuse. You are maligning me. Honey you just slashed my character 8 ways from Sunday. Why wouldn't the devil be in his mouth and he is talking to me like I'm some kind of street urgent. Because I was. There pathically trying prove myself lovable and worthy. We are not- only He can provide the love and raise us up to His regel nobility and holy self esteem in Him.

We are jumping from relationship to relationship. We cheat, we lie, we are covert in our marriage and deny them sex out of hate or abuse them sexually because we are looking for what we lost - or maybe never had. We will hear secular answers of , "Well you can't be in love all the time in your marriage ; you can't burn the flame that high all the time." The turth is you can but not with out His help. You have to believe in that you can erase the word curses, your history of repeated bad relationships, the resignation that you can never be fullfilled with another and not want again because of the hurt you have suffered.

I believe this core problem is why we have the fragmentation on many of our famlies. It equates to everything else in our world around us this breakdown in the oneness of flesh, this holy bond.. Yes, only the word and god can heal this but not until we recognise that as christian women- something is missing. Love is missing. Real love. The kind we all dreamed of as young women. How we easily submitted to our men and in powerful ways because the love was all important but then we grew up an career and jobs seemed more imporant and we get pulled away from the core love that God meant us to have. That this is the blessing that will bless our families and business. We have given up on the expectation of love where the other person wishes and pleasures are way more important than our own. That the fullfillment of our love making in LOVE becomes a distant dream. We are the daughters of the most high god and we don't demand our rights as His daughter and His Queen from our husband. If we are not nutured by the giving loving relationship we can not recieve the vision that God wants to bless with. It is the promise of the first fruit foundation that Paula White is always talking about. The man first, your first bonus from work that you know is from Him or from your daily toil. And all the first first fruits belong to him... Yes, that means your marriage in unison with one flesh which is the strongest conventant with God because He says a three strand core is not easily broken.

So of course the devil has attacked through out our society to kill of this sacrid space with diversions and division of say; living together out of wed-lock or having mulitple sex relationship marriages or some perversion. We can call that perversions because it is perverting the holy, divine, sacrid.... love space where everything is perfect. The only way relationship can be made perfect and one flesh is with His blessings. Not by reading magazines and taking quizes about what will please him or some sexy nighty that you bought at the mlm night party you attended with lots of other Christian women.

Single people have given in and up to no relationship because they don't believe it anymore or they have children and it's less trouble to have a man around- this lie leaves them uncovered.

Through divorce - we have become jaded in our expections. Why wouldn't we when we keep hearing and submitting to lies.

This had been my walk and it's time to share. I have broken through the legalism of my church experience. I was very attacked by my pastors in negatives ways and I kept fighting because I just couldn't give up on what I knew would make me complete and whole as a women. The only way I could heal as a women or my husband could heal was if we could reach this sacrid one flesh space with each other. I did seminars, theapy... you name it to some how fix myself to be worthy enough for my husband to want to find this pot of goal too. I exhausted every way to be deserving of a one flesh relationship with my husband where your hearts beat as one. Your eyes meet and say what can't be said in the natural. . Any other scenario left me.. in resignation, hurt, defeated, drained. I couldn't believe the dream was for me.I didn't even know what the dream was. Even after I became a Christian there were no seminars on One Flesh. There were only strange books like find the love language that fits you.huh? Love is love- He makes it all fit. God told me early on that ... Your husband has to come along. I knew what He meant. For my vision, family, business to be fully realized I had to have a healed relationship. My business will not move, my body will not be healed, my heart will never fully be His with out this- FULLY.So many women out there buying the lie that their expectation of love and fidelity are rediculous and so many man that have succumb to that their man hood lies in a highly charged sexual encounter- that the stranger the better.

If we are your helper than turn and hear us trying to help you. We are telling you- sweethart, dearone- we have lost the way. There is a serpent in our bedroom. The Good news is we can repent and pray for the dream of One Flesh to return and God is faithful.

Love that has wings, love that sets our men go out into the world for god to do amazing things.. etc. Love that covers us like a blanket each night and there is alway enough. Love isn't scarce or it isn't predicated on our own bodily standards of perfections or ability or inability to satisfy all desires. We weren't meant to.. Yes, I'm telling you that they only way to have completeness and wholeness through your love encounters is to ask Him for that and believe He will give you that joy..that completeness in a lost world no matter how you look or how much money you have or don't have or how intelligent you are or are not. There is no special talent... precious love- that will always be there. It will go away between ;you and your husband unless you fall and then just repent again and ask for the blessings again..

We are settling for something ...else. It's time to fight the lies, communicate clearly the expectations of God in our marriage, relationships. To know when we are in and our of that love space and when we are communicate that break down when the devil is trying to break that bond- we bring light back into that space and the truth that it really has nothing to do with us- our angers, frustrations and disappointments in each other. To recognise these are just test and a lie has entered the Garden. It must be acknowledge and exsponged. . We convince our selves that the love wasn't real. It was a dream. It never exsisted really. My husband had decided to not love me- take it personal and wilt and go away. Game over- you believe the lie, blame yourself and the devil won.

The lie of our powerless ness needs to be broken in Christ. Our demand for love and intimacy from our husbands is rebuffed and belittled as not right and we are treated an impractical and impatience children.

WE Can LOVE YOU, Brother. We can call with the voice of the gentel master and if your ears are tuned to His will -you will hear us.

It has been a path of brokeness and we have been shoved back into the rocks and jagged edges of the mountain. We become as a fountain shut off, awaiting to be awaken by our king to spring forth again but our faith and our love in Him has called us to be a help mate; not of a Victim nature but of love,purity,grace, mercy, patience, kindness, noble, or a good report.

OH hear us most valued one of the most high. He is calling you - through us.

When we believe in this kind of love for us- love from the Garden-Love that only comes from Him- we won't have 70% of women starving with the emptiness and deprevation of our soul in our relationships with a lie from the devil that has found a way to distroy the three strand cord.

There is love I tell you. Perfect in every way that is consumate in His Blessings of One Flesh.

Seek the blessings!

Paula Mary The Garden Coach.

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